Love is their color

By Cristina DC Pastor

Once upon a time, there was a law that criminalized marriage between a Filipino and an American. The Anti-miscegenation law applied mostly – although not exclusively — to Filipino men and white women, its objective being the preservation of racial purity. That law has since been declared unconstitutional and repealed in the 1960s.

Comes now a Pew Research Center study showing that interracial marriages are rising – up 8.4 percent in 2012 from about 3 percent in the 1980s. The reasons are many, but mixed race unions are found to be common among people of higher education and better socio-economic background.

This Valentine month, four Americans shared with The FilAm why they were smitten and why they married Filipinos. From their candor one finds they married not just the person and his/her loving self, but his/her cultural values as well.

Dan and Dennis

Dan and Dennis

Homeland Security officer

The qualities that I find most admirable about my spouse are – in no particular order. He treats his father well, is hardworking, not the jealous type, forgiving, mature, considers family important, kind and a gentle man, not controlling, has a sense of humor and non-judgmental.
I didn’t exactly marry a Filipino per se. We were introduced by a dentist that we both were patients of. I married a man who stole my heart away and he just happened to be a Filipino. So Dennis being who he is as a person and as man was the deciding factor. Being Filipino was just the icing on the cake!

Steve and Mona

Steve and Mona

Freelance photographer

Mona has the great qualities of trust, being a woman of class, a wonderful sense of humor, she is always great to be with, she is loyal to me. Her Filipino culture is refreshingly different from the average American woman in that Mona is far more down to earth and not overly consumed by material items. We are planning our future together with mutual love and respect for each other!

Bruce and Adora

Bruce and Adora

Technology teacher, filmmaker

My wife Adora and I have been married for over 12 years. Actually I didn’t set out to marry a Filipina or any other specific ethnicity. But what I found was a beautiful, sensitive and loving woman who happened to be Filipina.
I must admit I knew nothing of Philippine culture before we met. But what I quickly realized is that her upbringing had much to do with the woman she has become.

Respect, generosity and family values seemed to be second nature and of high importance to these people which I quickly endeared myself to. Without stereotyping,
I also found Filipinas to be strong-willed, hardworking and loyal people.

Mike and Remy

Mike and Remy

Freelance writer

I married a Filipina because, she was the most loyal and dependable woman I have gotten to know during my five years of courtship. My wife’s name is Remy and we been married for 15 years.

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  1. M. Matthews wrote:

    Dear Ms. Factor,

    Thank you very much for including me and my wife in this article in The Fil-Am!

    Salamt Po,

    M. Matthews

  2. […] marriages in the United States. On a similar thread, in honor of Valentine’s Day, The FilAm profiles four intercultural couples, asking the American side why they married their Filipino […]

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